My Plea for Your Prayers

We never know when life is going to disintegrate before our very eyes.

We never know when life is going to disintegrate before our very eyes.  Even though I'm more aware than most people and think I'm prepared for what may come, Thursday night when I was ready to prepare dinner, my ex-husband's wife called hysterically crying and saying that she thought he (Jim) had suffered a stroke.  Through her frantic sobbing, I was told that the paramedics were taking him via ambulance to Riverside Medical Center in Kankakee for treatment.

I had to tell my son, Bryan, that something had happened to his father and we needed to leave immediately.  After being assessed, it was determined that he did not have a stroke.....it was something much worse.  He had a brain mass.  Disoriented, and unable to speak, there was our strong patriarch lying on a gurney looking frail and helpless....hooked up to machines and tubes, etc. 

Today brought no good news.  He had pneumonia and they were unable to do a needle biopsy of his brain.  On top of that devastating news, we learned that when he fell during his seizure, he broke his back at T12.  They will have to cement the space between his vertebrae, but that is not the most pressing issue, and will not be addressed now.  

I ask for your prayers for Jim and  his wife Gail who, by the way,  is a cancer survivor.  His sons Anthony, Matthew and Bryan need your prayers of support and comfort.  In fact, we can all use them while we are struggling to make sense of it all. I can't think of anything else we need right now except the incredible power of prayer.  Prayers to take away our fear.  Prayers to give us strength.  Prayers to find comfort in our family.  Prayers to help us accept whatever God has in store.  Especially prayers for Jim that he will know his family surrounds him with our never-ending love for all he has done for each of us.   We each love him and want only the best for him. 

If you can do that for us, I will be forever grateful. 

This week I will sign off with a simple thank you. 




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Pat Gavros December 05, 2011 at 12:45 AM
Thanks so much Ken. Everyone has been so supportive and it's appreciated more than you can ever imagine.
Judy Siedlecki January 13, 2012 at 09:14 PM
Pat - I literally just read this! I'm so sorry. Your ex & Bryan's Dad is a lucky man to have so many loving people to care and pray for him. This is a dark time and I empathize with how difficult this is. God Bless You All as you traverse these rough waters. Judy & Phil
Pat Gavros January 14, 2012 at 01:34 AM
Christina, I would like to talk to you some questions we have concerning Jim's tumor. If you could call me when you have time I would certainly appreciate it, or email me and I'll email you back: branthonypublishing@yahoo.com OR 630-788-6964. Thank you for your thoughtfulness. Sorry, it took so long to respond, but didn't really know what to ask until now.
Pat Gavros January 14, 2012 at 01:41 AM
Thank you so much Judy! I went down to watch Jim while his wife went for a doctor's appointment. She's in her fourth year of remission, so this is very stressful and heartbreaking for her. Jim is just beginning his treatment starting tomorrow or Sunday. I can't remember. He's going to be taking a chemo pill instead of radiation. The team of doctors at Northwestern in Chicago are phenomenal (so says Jim's wife and my oldest step-son, Tony)! He's very weak right now and not wanting to do his therapy so we are struggling. He's walking with the aid of a walker, and talking quite well, except his memory isn't great. We are hoping he will get stronger and his memory will get a little better. When I was putting an ice pack on his shoulder, he said "Thanks". I told him, "Don't thank me, I'm not your wife anymore. I'll be billing you for these services." He broke out in a really big smile. I think he kind of remembered how zany I am! Keep praying for Jim and our family. We've got a long road ahead of us.
Judy Siedlecki January 14, 2012 at 04:05 AM
Hi Pat - These are extraordinary challenges for all of you. I (my family) went through it with my brother in our home. There are so many ups and downs, but with God's help (it's the only way I know) you will make it through. There's no recipe or easy way. You'll have to draw strength from and give strength to one another as needed. It sounds like you are already a well oiled team who know how to be there for each other. It's a beautiful thing really. Just remember, in making Jim your number one priority, there are times you will each have to grant yourself the right to being #1 occasionally. I have every confidence you will all figure out a way to make this the best possible experience for all concerned. You will never be alone because God will be there for each and every one of you every day all the time and He will give you all peace and assurance that the choices you make are the ones that are right. Keep the faith that all is as it is meant to be. In God's Love, Judy & Phil


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